1. FIRE WITH FIRE ISN’T A GOOD IDEA: If you’ve just had a huge fight, both of your nerves may be shot. He may be angry because of what you did, but this doesn’t mean that you have to be angry, too. Even if you have a valid point, it won’t help your case if you add more fire to the argument. Pick your battles and let him have the last say, even just this time.
2. RESPECT HIS PRIVACY: So he asked for some space. He’s not talking to you, he won’t meet up, not even just for your usual afternoon coffee. This doesn’t mean that you should hack into his Facebook and Twitter accounts just to see if he’s looking for other girls or talking about you to his friends. It won’t help if you’ve been snooping around. Just let it go and let him come to you.
3. IT’S NOT THAT DEEP: If your guy doesn’t seem to want to talk to you, ignores you, or won’t even answer your call, don’t take it personally. Guys need time and space to process what’s been happening. It’s not your fault that he doesn’t want to talk to you yet *although it probably is your fault that he’s angry as hell*.
4. DON’T GOSSIP ABOUT IT: Okay, you may feel bad about the fight and think that you’re right, but don’t go around talking to your girlfriends about it. While a little chat is fine so you can let off steam and have a shoulder to cry on, please don’t go backstabbing and gossiping about your guy. Now that he’s mad, the last thing he wants is to hear from other people how you and he got in an argument.
5. APOLOGIZING WONT KILL YOU: There’s no point in prolonging your fight and keeping your ego satisfied, especially if it’s your fault in the first place. If your relationship means a lot to you, then admit that you really messed up and you’re sorry for hurting his feelings and making him mad. Once you start talking, apologize genuinely and stop that urge to minimize, rationalize, or divert the blame to your boyfriend.
6. LISTEN: When you start talking to each other, avoid turning it into a one-way conversation. If you want to really apologize to your man so he won’t be mad anymore, let him talk. Let him talk to you about what he felt or how what you did made him feel. Genuinely listen to what he has to say and avoid interrupting him.
7. SHOW AFFECTION: Continue to show him that you love him, even if he’s mad at you. In fact, when you do start to talk about your fight, this is the perfect time for you to be sweet to him. Kiss the anger away, so to speak. You can even use your hugs and kisses to win him over so he’s not angry anymore—end of discussion.
8. TRY NOT TO DO IT AGAIN: When your boyfriend is mad at you, it’s not enough to just say “I’m sorry.” You have to not only mean it, but also prevent it from happening again in the future. Apologizing for something one day and then turning around and committing the same fault the next will only make him wary of accepting your apologies in the future.
